The fear of being judged isn’t a concept any of us are alien to. All of us know how it feels. All of us have been through times where we stopped and limited ourselves just because we were too conscious about what people will think of us. We feel defeated.
We are all familiar with situations where the fear of being judged was the only real hurdle that Kept us from going for what we wanted.
We might even withdraw without even giving a shot, just because we were too afraid of something that had such little importance i.e. We simply feel we have had enough.
People and their Opinions.
Different is new, different is scary, different is an outcast.
We all strive to stand out yet we are all so afraid to be different, its because of the fear of being judged.
We have come a long way from the caveman civilizations where the fear of drowning or being eaten by a wild animal was the top of the list.
In today’s world, the fear of being judged or being outcast is the crippling fear that most of us try to avoid, and sometimes, some of us might even center our entire lives around avoiding to face this fear.
As time has passed, many of us have learned to overcome this fear and embrace the diversity of our global community.
Even if you are still struggling to overcome this fear, we hope our encouraging list of Don’t care any more quotes will help motivate you to finally take the leap.
What Exactly is the fear of being judged?
When you don’t trust your instincts and depend on others for your life choices, you are living in a cage of expectations and fears.
The fear of being judged is actually a social anxiety disorder mostly common with reserved personality traits.
Certainly, more than just being shy, this disorder can limit your potential if left untreated.
The question here is, how to know if you are suffering from it or not.
Well, for the answer you need to evaluate yourself. More than that you need to observe and question your daily life habits.
This will help you understand if you are living with the fear of being judged or you already Don’t care anymore about what people think of you.
Observe yourself and try answering a few questions.
Do you trust your decisions or need someone else to guide you?
Do you keep yourself from sharing your opinions with other people even when everyone else is doing it?
Do you always feel that people are laughing at you or are trying to make fun of you?
Are you afraid of talking to new people or making new friends?
Are you a lone wolf?
Do you have a desire to be liked by everyone?
If the answer to most of these questions is yes, then it is obvious that you are living in a fear of being judged by others. And it might be a good idea to start living your life according to your own choice.
Why does my life depend on people’s opinions?
This is just another important question.
Knowing the reason behind this disorder can help you learn the root cause behind it.
Thus, making it easy to sort the disorder.
Lack of self-confidence is one of the most important reasons behind this disorder. Moreover, sometimes the desire to please everyone can cause fear of being judged by others.
This results in the disability of a person to tell people things how they are instead of hiding behind a mask of expectations.
Another reason can be genetics.
Some people have this disorder in their genes they always fear the opinions of people regarding themselves. This develops the fear of being judged.
Underdeveloped social skills are also possible contributors.
As a person with underdeveloped social skills will always misread situations, remarks, and gestures resulting in awkward or totally off the mark responses.
Such people feel demotivated and depressed after meeting new people.
How do I stop Caring for what people think of me?
The following are a few tips that will help you to escape the fear of being judged.
For this, you need to focus on yourself.
You will have to leave everything aside and understand that it’s only you who matters and no one else.
It is your life and you should spend it as per your own choice.
Stop Judging Yourself:
Stop judging yourself and people will automatically stop judging you.
When you underestimate your own abilities, you are providing the society a green card to disregard you and judge you.
No one knows you like you, thus no one knows your weaknesses and shortcomings like you.
When you start being insecure about these issues, you actually highlight them to other people.
Just remember you are human and you cannot be perfect, accept yourselves to be accepted by others. Believing in your efforts and investing your time in improving yourself and grooming your personality will help you escape the fear of judgment.
Trust Your Decisions:
Make your own choices, trust your instincts, and make your decisions.
Don’t wait for the approval of other people.
No one can tell you what is right or wrong for you.
It’s only you who decides which way to go. So, stop chasing people’s approval and start investing your trust in your decisions.
Believe me, it shall be worth it.
Stop Assuming Things:
Try to be more positive about the people around you. Always assuming that they are judging you is not fair to them.
When you allow the negativity in your mind to judge others based on certain grounds you unconsciously set a benchmark for yourself as well, the next time you want to wear the kitty cat sweater you casually mocked Karen for you will think twice.
Assuming negative judgments from other people promotes the growth of negative energies within you.
This can deteriorate your own personality and mental health.
Create Your Happiness:
Learn to create your happiness. Stop depending on others for a good day. Learn to spend quality time with yourself.
Learn to create your own little world of happiness.
Understand that if you depend on others for your happiness you will never get it.
The happiness that is made from the foundation of depending on others is always bound to end up being a disappointment. People are in-consistent and any emotion-based off of them will also be in-consistent.
Stop Investing Your Time in Pleasing Others:
This is the un-healthy by-product of dependence.
If you are someone who is always busy trying to please people, you can never experience true satisfaction.
This is because you are now putting these said people on a pedestal and allowing them to be the judge of your self-worth.
Invest this time in your own self and you’ll soon know the real meaning of being content and satisfied.
The following are a few quotes that will motivate you to combat and defeat the fear of judgment.
These quotes will help you gain back your confidence and live a life that you desire to live.
7 Motivational Quotes About Opinions Don’t Matter
…So Don’t Care Anymore About Them
Words have more power than you think, Speeches, poetry and song lyrics have for a long time moved our hearts and souls, changed our views, induced passion and so much more.
What better way to motivate yourself than take the word of people who have actually been in situations like these? Here are some quotes related to the topic under discussion.
These quotes will help you understand the importance of trusting your own self rather than trusting people around you. Nobody can really be trusted.
So, let’s dive in and learn more about how not to care about being judged.
Not caring more about what other people think than what you think. That’s freedom. – Demi Moore
The American Actress has profoundly explained the real meaning of freedom.
According to her, you haven’t tasted freedom until and unless you are independent about what people think of you.
Real freedom is a state of mind, once you’ve achieved it, people, events, and things will no longer have any power over you.
If you worry about people’s opinions, you are leading nowhere.
You’ll never understand the true meaning of the word independence unless you experience it.
By not caring too much about what people think, I’m able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed. – Albert Ellis
He was an American Psychologist, a researcher who developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy in 1955.
According to him in order to recognize your full potential and to be your true self, you first need to stop caring about what others think of you.
In this quotation, he explains that when he stopped considering what people said, only then was he able to think and propagate the best ideas for himself.
He urges his patients and everyone else to stand up with your back straight and with your head held high and tell the world that you don’t care anymore about what the world thinks of you.
People’s opinion is only an indication of strong self-evaluation, if your un-influenced self- evaluation has rendered you un-worthy then, and only then should you change yourself.
It’s better sometimes to not care than to be too good, people will always take what they never stress to get for granted, easy come, easy go. – Blaze Olamiday
This Nigerian Rapper has shown a deep meaning in his few words. He has profoundly described the dark side of human nature.
We humans never regard something that is available for free. We only regard what takes up effort.
Therefore, he emphasizes to stop bestowing your love and affection towards people.
Stop allowing people to disturb your mental peace. Stop giving them the power to control your life because when you are so easily available to them you are bound to be taken advantage of.
In fact, they will always hurt you.
Sometimes the only choice left to do is to stop caring. Make a pace and move forward no matter how it hurts because there is no reason to stay anymore. – Nova Rosa
Learn the ability to move on.
If someone is not willing to stay in your life don’t force them.
Understand that what is meant to stay will stay but you cannot force someone or something to forever be with you.
Be mature enough to let go off things. Be sufficient enough that even if someone leaves you still you manage to survive on your own.
Love yourself and learn to be available for yourself.
If I have to chase and fight for your attention, eventually I won’t want it anymore. – Will Smith
If you have to fight and thrive hard to keep someone you are mistaken.
People who cost you your mental peace are way too expensive to be a part of your life.
Clear them out of your life as soon as possible.
Or give them space and allow them to leave if they wish to.
According to Will Smith, if you are chasing them for their attention and are struggling to make them notice you, there will be a time when they will be worthless.
So, reach out to them and speak up that you don’t care anymore about their presence or absence in your life.
Don’t just be to available for them or you will lose all your value.
Learn to value yourself and it will teach them how to value you.
It’s incredibly liberating to spend an hour talking to someone and not caring about what you sound like. It’s about understanding myself. Sometimes I’ll speak to my therapist for an hour a day. It’s become part of my routine. – Shakira
Learn the importance of having your people. Understand that you are kneaded in a way that you require appreciation, love, affection, and motivation to prosper in life.
Positivity will charge you to re-enter the race of life at full pace.
Spend some quality me-time in knowing more about yourself. Learn to talk your heart out.
And while doing so never limit yourself. Just say what you feel in front of someone who is really close or concerned about you.
These few minutes a week will liberate you of all negative energies and will help you rebuild all that you have lost within yourself.
I don’t care about losing people who don’t want to be in my life anymore. I’ve lost people who meant the world to me and I’m still doing just fine. – Author: Karl May
Understand and get used to the thought that people are not meant to stay.
Life goes on, events change, time changes and so do people. So, according to Karl May, you must have a grip over your thoughts.
You must be strong enough to let life go on.
Life can be very cruel sometimes. It snatches the best you have and then expects you to live without it.
You need to master the art of being brave enough to let time play its role. You will observe with the passage of time that you underestimated your power.
When you thought that you will die without your loved one, you were wrong.
Life and death go hand in hand you don’t die with people and you shouldn’t die with people.
Hopefully, after reading this little light-hearted piece of information you must have understood the importance of being available for yourself.
Realization of the fact that you must invest your energies, time, efforts, and, attention towards yourself instead of wasting these precious things on those who don’t even deserve it.
So now that we know how important it is to value ourselves let’s just announce it to the world that we don’t care anymore about what it thinks of us.
As we are mature and strong enough to be there for ourselves.