Leading a life without a purpose and constantly finding your direction, is an existential dilemma for almost all of us. There comes a time in our lives, where we question our journey and where we are headed to. You ask yourself, how do I find my purpose and direction in life?
The silver lining is in “trying”.
If you are putting in the effort to finding direction in life and seeking your passion; the good news is that you have already taken a step ahead.
Most people just stay distracted all their lives and they work for others and become satisfied of what-so-ever they do. They don’t really live as they die with their passions, desires, and purposes, buried deep within their hearts.
We all have heard advice from the best people that motivate us to live our dreams.
Don’t be like those people who gave up just because they stumbled a bit or failed. But despite knowing all of this, we tend to let loose of our passions.
You know that you have to stay focused on where you want to go.
You have to put in the effort, in finding the direction of your life and be passionate about learning anything that takes you a step ahead, towards the purpose of your life.
You already realize that you have the fire within you, to achieve whatever you want.
Having a purpose in your life makes it worth living. Ask yourself; what are you passionate about?
If you think you are not content with your life, question yourself again and again. Leading a purposeless life, without a proper direction is simply breathing because you have been gifted another day.
But finding direction in life and leading it with a purpose, passion, and aim, is all about getting the most out of the day that you have been gifted with.
You see passion is the first and a very important step in your life’s way to success, and so I will try to guide you through these steps.
How to actually find my purpose in life?
Find “Who you really are?”
Find out, who you are. What makes you smile?
What makes you happy?
Look deep down into your heart and find what truly makes you content and feel amazing. We all are awesome in one way or another. Sadly, many of us just don’t know it yet and we are all hard-wired to be what the society wants us to be because we are scared and vulnerable.
You see there are two versions of you. One is made by our society and another one is that awesome person inside you.
Be that awesome guy.
Ask yourself what is your nature?
What are you naturally good at?
Are you good at talking or are you creative or maybe you are sensitive and some of you might be completely insensitive?
Just keep on digging in yourself and always focus on the root of what you feel and what you want to do. Think about what gives your life a sense. What you want to do. Don’t worry about “how you will do it”, it will all come to you naturally.
If you are still confused then hear this out because this is the most important of all.
Think about, how you can affect other peoples’ lives?
How will you serve the world?
What do they need that your talents can provide?
What services can you give to others on which you are naturally good at, and which also makes you happy? It’s all you have to figure out.
These dreams and these ideas, they come to you for a reason. That guy inside of you, that tells you every day that you are doing it wrong, who is trying to make you realize that the paths on which were are on were all wrong.
Listen to that guy!
Life doesn’t throw a bone at you.
You only get what you deserve, you get what you are.
Understand that it takes time.
I know most of you are still confused right now and that’s because you are being eager to find your passion.
Understand that it will take some time to find your passion.
I have seen people scaring off others by saying
“It took me 10 years to find my passion”
“I have spent my whole life finding my passion”
Well, that’s all BS, sure it takes time but not that much. Just don’t be impatient, it will come to you naturally.
Who knows you better than you? Well nobody, only you! So just keep on digging in your brain and you will soon find all the answers you are looking for.
I found out about my passion in a very different manner, by “Lucid Dreaming“. Of those of you who haven’t heard of it, it’s a dream in which you are aware that you are dreaming, simple is that.
But I took it to the next level. I got obsessed with finding my passion and searched deep within my mind and found out what I really love to do.
You will find it if you are a natural lucid dreamer but if you are not, even then you can try to achieve lucid dreaming.
I kept on practicing until I became the master of my dreams and then I went deep into my subconscious and saw, what I really love.
Do the same if you are a lucid dreamer maybe you can find your passion this way.
The point of telling you all this is that no matter what you do it’s going to take some time for you to research yourself until you find what makes you sparkle.
Brainstorm on yourself – And write it down
Grab a paper and a pen and write down whatever you want to do. Write down things that make you happy.
Think about what you would really like to do in life if money wasn’t a problem; it can be anything. What are you passionate about?
Do you want to become a great guitar player, bodybuilder or a race car driver?
It can be anything that you want to do. Just focus on all the things which make you, YOU.
If you came up with a few options then that’s great, otherwise, hang in there.
All you need is focus.
It takes time to build that list. While building that list start looking at your life in a different way, think about what gives your life a sense of joy.
What is it that you would do 24/7 and never get tired of? Find those reasons.
You have greatness, talents, and skills within you that you haven’t even begun to imagine. You just have to find them.
Now the things you wrote down start doing them one by one. If you have a job, do them in your free time. If you don’t have a job do them full time and keep on searching for jobs. Don’t lose hope.
So suck up to it and just do it, one day you will quit that lousy job of yours like I did and will start doing what you love instead.
If you get bored doing that first thing on your list or feel like it’s not for you, leave it and see what’s next on your list and then start doing that instead.
If that’s also not good enough for you do the next one on your list and if there is nothing left on your list then come up with something but keep on going and you will find your passion.
Is passion over-rated?
I am a strong believer in passion.
I have written so much on passion and how everyone should follow their passions to reach wherever they want to in life.
This is the truth.
You don’t need to doubt the fact that passion is going to earn you like no other job will. It will bring in the waves of satisfaction and relief.
They do say it right that doing what you love, never tires you from your job or daily routine.
But here is a question; is passion overrated?
Have we placed it on a level so high that we cannot see anything beyond it? Just let a fact click your mind; what if your passion is not promising enough to earn you a good living, a luxurious lifestyle, or a healthy and bright future? Do you still leap for it?
This is where Ben Horowitz’s speech in 2015, at Columbia University stunned us because it was entitled:
Don’t follow your passion.
I did not like the speech in all also. He is trying to tell people to be machined to earn money.
But in the end, what if your passion is not fulfilling your basic necessities like food and clothes?
Are you getting the point here?
So here are some reasons that show that we have an overrated passion and yes, sometimes its okay to not follow them and keep them for your pass time duties. For instance, your passion is music but your voice isn’t that good; do you have a promising future like Enrique Iglesias?
Sometimes passion gets hard to rank:
If someone asks you hey, are you passionate about paintings or becoming an artist in all? Won’t you be that little bit confused? You will go like artists love to paint. But hey, artists do a lot of other things that just painters don’t.
Again, if someone asks you, do you love math or you wish to become an engineer? Sometimes you have more than just one passion. You can be passionate about writing and sketching. What do you choose? So prioritizing your passions is hard.
It again comes to the most suitable choice or something that seems to be promising great future. You can’t always pick one of your passions to opt it for a lifetime. It can lead to greater confusions.
You are not always that great at your passion:
So as I said above, your passion is not always your strength. You might feel this strong connection with music but what if you are actually a bathroom singer?
Do you think you will love your job? You probably won’t even get a job. I know facing reality can be so hard sometimes.
But if you understand that you aren’t good at what you feel passionate about you will be able to find something you are good at or you can keep going with it and you can earn from it as well. Sometimes you are just passionate about something as a past time hobby.
For instance, you might love watching and attending to DIY’s but making tutorials for it or taking it as your career is a totally opposite thing. So does the picture get clearer here?
Passion can change
Okay, this might sound a bit weird but I have experienced it or let’s say I have seen it happening around me sometimes. A lot of people start to lose interest in what they term as passion. They get bizarre of it. So where does that passion go then?
It somehow relates to my previous point as well. You can love doing DIY’s but at the same time, you cannot take it as a full-time duty. Why? Because attending to DIY’s might change anytime. You can get bored with it.
Passions are sometimes linked to your hobbies and thus, they have space for changing. You really don’t have the hold over that, do you? Passion is definitely getting overrated. I have seen people reach the heights of success with their passion but at the same time, I have seen people getting bizarre of it. Passion comes from within you but at the same time, while we live in such a competitive world, we don’t want to die of hunger, do we? Passion doesn’t drive luck and money to you always. The scenarios are different and one day, you might just wonder why you did just pop into this field? And then you start hating yourself for getting into your passion in the first place. So the verdict here is that passion has its own specific place. You must know how to judge it before it’s too late for you to realize that you wasted your entire life and didn’t get anything in return.
It’s not easy but it’s worth it, you have to spend some time thinking about it because it’s the first and the most important step for your successful life.
When I didn’t know what my passion was, I was still somewhat satisfied with my engineering job, it paid me well but someone deep inside kept on shouting you are not an engineer, you are somebody else.
I started doing the things I love and it took me some time but I finally found it, and as it turns out I love to help people.