In this time and age, our lives are getting increasingly virtual and technology-dependent than ever before.
We stay in our confined spaces and are able to access the world through the tiny devices we constantly have in our hands. That too, just at the cost of some clicks.
While some people say that this technology has vastly increased distances between us, it won’t be wrong to say that it has also brought us together.
When our friends and loved ones are in a bad place in their heads, if we can’t be there for them in person, all we can do is cheer them up using technology- aka texts and phone calls.
The key to cheering someone up over text is to make them feel loved and appreciated with your words and attention. Try to make them laugh, put a smile on their face and make them feel like they are a part of something bigger than themselves.
Top 7 Cool Ways to Cheer Someone Up Just By Texting
1. Make them feel cared for
When someone is down in the dumps, one thing that is undoubtedly going to make a difference is making them feel cared for.
Since they probably aren’t willing to spend time with anyone, you don’t get to do things together like you used to. No lunchdates or shopping sprees to lighten their moods.
So let them know you care by checking up on them through text. Ask them whether they’re okay, if they’ve eaten, if they’re staying hydrated, or if they need anything.
The smallest of concerns conveyed over text are sometimes enough for people to realize that they are not alone and are cared for.
During mental breakdowns, most of us have gone down toxic rabbit holes that have left us feeling unworthy and lonely, so this can make a huge difference in someone’s life.
2. Listen to them without making it about yourself
One of the most critical yet overlooked points when trying to help someone feel better is remembering to listen to them attentively.
Especially when they try to open up to you, rather than jumping to possible solutions, just listen, and make them feel like their experiences and feelings are valid.
Remember that as a good listener, you need to be passive yet present.
Granted that it is a paradox, but you need to ensure that your loved one knows that you’re listening without making it about yourself. In short, you need to keep your experiences out of it.
No one likes a one-upper, and if you just start relating your experiences after they start opening up, that is what you will seem like. If they want your advice or want to know about your experience, they’ll ask you.
Just hear them out and let them rant about anything they want to. You’d be surprised at how often people feel better after getting something off their chest.
3. Make them crack up with laughter
Another thing that can cheer someone up is making them laugh. Now there are tons of ways to make that happen.
You can send your loved ones memes, funny videos, or gifs that you come across on your social media feeds, tell them jokes, or recall funny instances that have happened in your life and share them.
Keep in mind that there is a particular time to pitch in the humor when trying to cheer someone up.
If they’re too down in the dumps, they might not want to laugh it out just yet, and instead might want to get distracted or talk about it.
4. Engage them in stimulating conversations
Another popular complaint amongst lots of people is that “I feel like my brain has turned to mush” or “It feels like I don’t have the mental capacity to even think about something productive.”
These sentiments are pretty common nowadays, and we all know someone who is going through something similar.
This lack of productivity is leading to an increase in a low sense of self. We, as human beings, assess our worth through what we contribute to the world. Whether it’s a good idea or an act, it determines our value.
So, if you find your loved ones going through this, try and engage them in productive conversations. Talk to them about politics, economics, or spirituality, and go on a journey together!
Who knows, you might come up with a solution to an issue that’s been around for a long time. Everyone needs intellectual stimulation from time to time; it keeps us going, so try and start such conversations.
Even if it doesn’t help much in the long run, engaging in such intellectual conversations will be a good distraction from whatever they have going on in their lives for the time being.
5. Be a source of positive reinforcement
While it is easy for some people to keep themselves positive, others have a tough time and need reinforcement from the outside. So, try and be that for someone.
Whether you’re helping someone get back on track with their workout routine or trying to get them to get back to work, constant words of encouragement can go a long way.
Celebrate the small steps by telling them you’re proud of them when they make progress.
And when they don’t, let them know it is okay not to succeed every day, make sure they know that they’re not alone and it’s okay to feel the way they do.
6. Try to inspire them when they seem hopeless
When one feels upset and starts to alienate from the world, they also lack the motivation to do what they otherwise loved to work on.
Our hobbies are a great way to stay busy and keep the bad moods at bay.
However, when everything else seems to fall apart, doing something you love suddenly seems pointless. And when that happens, we need some outside inspiration to get back to it.
So, try to inspire your close ones to do what they love and encourage them to spend time working on their hobbies. Sometimes all you need to do is to show interest in what they’re into.
Know that this is necessary for their inner peace and a sense of productivity in their lives. As mental health issues have risen over the past few years, inspiration is essential to help others.
7. Take care of yourself
Last but not least, you need to take care of yourself, physically and mentally. You can only help others if you’re okay. Know that while taking care of others and helping them is a good thing, you always need time for yourself too.
Listening to negativity and trying to make others see the silver lining can take a toll on you as well. So, make sure you don’t drain yourself.
Sit back, relax, talk to others when you know that you are in the right frame of mind and when you know you can help them.
Try not to lose yourself in the process. When you try to make others feel better, you need to come out the other end with two mentally sound people, not end up being like them yourself.
So, while you follow all the ways mentioned above to cheer them up, try to do the same for yourself too. See things that inspire you to inspire others and look for positive reinforcements around you to share that positivity.
How effective is trying to cheer someone up over text vs. real life?
Some people come up with reservations saying that “How can technology replace real human interaction?” and “How are we supposed to know if what we say affects someone’s mood since texts can’t show them what we actually feel?”
First of all, you need to come to terms with the fact that texts cannot replace human interaction, and they never will.
However, just because you can’t physically be there for the ones you love doesn’t mean that you should let them go through their tough times on their own.
And yes, it can be hard to communicate properly over text because it feels more superficial, but you still need to be patient with it.
As long as your texts are consistent and sound genuine, your loved ones will realize that you actually care about making them feel better.
Just because you can’t go and hug them doesn’t mean you can’t send them virtual hugs. At times it’s the thought that counts.
You just need to tell them what you feel, and things will turn out just fine.
Another thing you need to do is to keep your reservations aside, don’t overthink things, and if you mean what you say, they’ll surely feel better in no time.
It all comes down to this…
Now that you’ve gone through all the ways you can cheer someone up over text, all you have to do is follow through with them!
Granted that texting will never replace the feeling of hugging your friend or kissing your partner goodnight, but it can be the next best thing.
Something is better than nothing.