Understanding the true intentions behind a guy’s action is a difficult and exhausting task. They might be doing one thing and mean another.
Recently a guy who has been trying to pursue you or someone you have been crushing on has been acting strange that is triggering you every now and then. You’ve seen him talk to another girl a handful of times with great interest and he has been acting a bit distant lately.
It can be because he is trying to make you jealous to capture your attention or to ignite the feelings you have trying to suppress.
In some unfortunate cases, he might not be interested in you anymore.
Maybe he has developed an attraction for someone outside the relationship and has been acting distant, even if he hasn’t acted upon his urges.
The point however is how to know if he is just trying to make you jealous or is he not interested anymore? And to get this answer the first thing you need to do is be very objective.
This matter can be very confusing and stressful for girls. The following article will help to clear things out a bit and eventually, you will have to decide on either pursuing that guy or moving on.
Signs that he is trying to make you jealous
Here are some reasons your boyfriend is trying to make you jealous:
He flirts with other girls in front of you
If he has been flirting with other people within your sight, it is highly possible that he is not doing it for them, he is doing it for you.
A player would commit to such actions behind your back but if he is doing it in front of you, it means he has nothing to hide and has a completely different motive than just flirting.
He wants to capture your attention, by devoting his undivided attention from you to someone else.
A clever way to make you jealous!
He talks about girls with his friends right in front of you
Engaging in a full locker room bro discussion in front of you might be his way to telling you that he has other prospects his could move onto.
Maybe you have been ignoring him or shutting down his attempts to woo you due to some reasons.
In this way, he will let you know that maybe he isn’t available after all.
Believe it or not, you will feel jealousy and a pang of panic if you like him, which will make you reach out to him faster. Mission accomplished!
He talks about things he’s never mentioned before
He may talk about things, ideas, and beliefs that may seem out-of-character to you but it is his way of letting you know that there is a lot about him that you don’t know about.
Maybe you think you have him all figured out, like this he is dismissing your thoughts and showing you a whole new side of him.
Maybe he has suddenly expressed his interest in traveling, a topic he never talked about before.
It will make you jealous and curious at the same time, you’d be disappointed in not having known so much about him and would want to change that.
Again, another way of asserting his independence.
He’s trying to make you feel threatened and make him feel better about himself.
He becomes too busy and dismisses plans last minute
He’s trying to build you up then let you crash.
The more grandiose the gesture he doesn’t follow through on, the more he wants you to notice.
His schedule becomes too busy that he can’t even call you.
You’ll wonder what other distractions he has that are more important than spending time with you and you’ll want to be more dominant about your position in his life.
That is probably what he wants.
Putting distance between the two of you
It can be heartbreaking, but he’s trying to get that green-eyed monster to rear its ugly head.
He might just slow down with the phone calls and texts instead of stopping altogether.
He brags about how popular he is within other girls
This would be his attempt to let you know how special he is and how admirable he is within other girls.
He just wants you to notice him as the person who can be good for you in every way.
He is either trying to make you jealous after you rejected his feelings or he likes you but doesn’t know how to express it in words.
Is that all he ever talks about?
He’s probably trying to build up his self-confidence an make you jealous by letting you know how much fun he’s having going on amazing dates with people that aren’t you.
You can choose to ignore his talk or change the subject to something that interests you.
There’s no reason you have to listen to him talk about his busy dating life all the time, especially if it irks you.
Moreover, who wants to hear all the details from every single date he goes on?
Most people wouldn’t like it so quickly change the subject or tell him you are definitely not interested in hearing all of that stuff.
He is active in skin-ship with other girls in front of you
The guy is doing everything he can to make you jealous or make you feel bad about not returning his feelings or not being in a committed relationship with him.
He will initialize skin-ship with other girls to make you jealous and to let you know that he completely living his life with or without you.
Doesn’t matter what his intentions are, if this is frustrating you, its best you stay away from him to avoid giving him further pleasure.
How to tell if a guy isn’t interested in you?
He’s not interested in what you have to say
He used to pay attention when you talked and remember the small details, but now it’s like all your words just fly over his head and later he’ll blank out on conversations you know you had with him.
You can notice is weary and uninterested expression when he talks to you.
If a guy likes you, what’s important to you will be important to him.
He will pay close attention to what you say and will remember what’s important to you.
When we like someone, we gobble up everything they say. We can’t get enough, we want to hear everything, even the most insignificant details.
If a guy isn’t interested anymore, he won’t ask you questions he is curious about and won’t try to engage in meaningful conversations.
When a guy likes you, he wants to discover the real you and connect with you on a deep level.
He doesn’t initiate
Are you the only one always taking a step forward?
If it seems like only you are eager to spend time with him and lock dates on a Friday night while he just reacts in an annoyed or dismissive way, the best conclusion is that he isn’t interested to spend time with you.
If a man likes you he will make time for you, he will try to be around you most of the time even if it’s not a planned date.
His priorities change
All of a sudden he is consumed by his busy schedule, be it meeting with friends, going to the gym, official work, something is always more important than you.
If he is trying to make you jealous he will keep you notified about every part of his busy schedule to make you feel dismissed.
However if he isn’t interested his whereabouts will always be vague and he won’t find it important to always tell you how he is spending his time.
At first, when you made plans it was basically set in stone.
Now he’s started canceling on you more and more, and the excuses are getting weaker and weaker.
Every now and then stuff comes up, and we all have to cancel on friends and loved ones.
But how often is this happening? It needs to be the exception, not the rule.
When a guy likes a girl, he won’t flake unless he has a really good reason.
If it feels like he’s canceling on you because something “better” came up, it’s a definite sign he’s losing interest.
If a guy likes a girl he would never risk this because he doesn’t want to lose her.
If a guy is indifferent toward you, then he won’t care about the consequences of canceling last minute
You’re the only one putting effort
You feel like if you won’t put any effort, he will just disappear from your life.
He doesn’t seem keen to cherish the bond that you guys once had and is indulged in his own world.
You’re always messaging first or initiating plans only to have an unenthusiastic response from him.
A good litmus test for this is to look at the way he was in the beginning of the relationship and compare that to how he’s acting now.
The shift will be more dramatic than just settling into relationship normalcy.
Doesn’t spend time together
Don’t panic if he occasionally wants to do something else on the weekends when up until that point you’d been spending every weekend together.
It’s usually not sustainable or healthy for a couple to spend every minute together, even when they’re crazy about each other.
But if you feel like he’s spending considerably less time with you and it’s bothering you, this could be a sign he’s losing interest.
His body language changes
When someone likes you, it’s written all over them, from their eyes to the way they angle their feet.
A guy’s mannerisms around a woman he likes and has no interest in are different.
When round the woman he likes, he stares at her, he leans in, he angles his body facing directly in front of her, and he may get a little shifty due to nervous energy.
If he’s no longer doing these things and instead, he doesn’t make eye contact, doesn’t stare at you, doesn’t have the same fondness in his eyes for you, doesn’t face you when around you, then it means he’s losing interest in you
He goes for long stretched without any contact
A man who’s interested wants to know what’s going on in your life, and he wants to tell you what’s going on in his.
A man who’s interested will miss you when you’re not around.
If he goes a lot of days without contacting you, without knowing how you’re doing, it means he isn’t interested anymore.
He treats you like any other ordinary person or friend in his life.
He doesn’t get jealous when you talk about other guys
Maybe you notice his interest is waning, so you try to elicit a reaction by mentioning other guys and he doesn’t bat an eyelash and replies calmly without any sarcasm, he really means it.
Men are competitive by nature.
If you mention other guys and he has no reaction, he doesn’t even get a little jealous or angry, it’s a major sign that he’s no longer interested.
Conclusion
Sometimes, our response to feeling insecure is to try and make other people feel just as insecure as we do.
If you suspect your partner is trying to make you jealous, it is better to talk to him about what’s really going on in his head.
If you are the one hiding your feelings, it is better to let him know that you have feelings for him and these actions are hurting you.
Did something happen to make him feel unwelcome or inadequate?
Make a deal to quit with the games and be straight up with each other. Your relationship will be much better for it.
If the guy isn’t interested in you, it is wise to be straightforward about it too to prevent future heartbreak and so you can stop wasting your time on things that will have no plausible outcome.
