For most of us, Mr. Perfect only exists in fantasies and childhood notions about a prince charming.
The reality of it is that finding the perfect man for you can be a pain, especially, if you don’t know what to look for or where to even start looking in the first place!
Regardless of whether it’s your first time looking or if you’ve been in a relationship before, even the initial nerves of having to meet someone new and going on a date with them can be a lot to get through.
Especially when you consider the possibility that they might not end up being the one.
However, the key to finding the man of your dreams is to be fearless in meeting people, all the while being the best version of yourself, and knowing what you want. To be certain that you’ve found him, you need to pick up on signs like how you feel around him and how your relationship with him is progressing. Then of course, since you are looking to tie the knot and to settle down, you need to plan the future with him and keep the relationship balanced and healthy.
While all of this may sound like a lot of work, it really isn’t once you are on the track.
Know What You Want
To find the perfect man for you, you need to know how you define the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. While you shouldn’t be looking for perfection in your partner, you shouldn’t be setting the bar too low either.
Identify the qualities of the your dream man. What kind of personality are you looking for?
Are you looking for an easy-going person? Or are you looking for someone more determined and persistent?
How important is it for you to be with someone who shares the same interests as you, such as tennis, or volunteer work?
Along with that, identify your deal-breakers. What are complete no-nos for you in a possible partner?
Whether you’re compiling these qualities in your notes app or a mental list, having a more specific idea about who you want will help you keep an eye out for these qualities when you meet new people!
Be the best version of yourself!
As important as it is for the other person to be right for you, no one can really be right for you if you are not the best version of yourself- or at least striving to be.
It might be possible that the reason you are jumping from relationship to relationship is that you are still trying to figure out who you are.
You need to truly be yourself and be aware of who you are. You need to be aware of your good side and bad side, your strengths, and weaknesses, and work on them as you wish to before you become a part of a duo.
The perfect relationship can only contribute so much to your happiness if you are not happy with yourself or your own life! So your top priority should always be yourself!
Identify Your Core Values
A difference in the core values of two people in a relationship automatically makes them incompatible and will inevitably lead to a breakup.
To avoid any such disasters down the road, before you get serious, you ought to know whether your core values are similar.
Ask yourself questions like:
What are their family values like? What is their social stance? Where do they stand religiously? What is their ideal lifestyle?
Do Not Be Afraid to Go on Many, Many Dates
Chances are, you’re probably going to have to go on a lot of dates before you end up finding the man of your dreams.
But, don’t let this overwhelm you!
Who knows when and how you will meet the man you’ve been waiting for all along? Going on dates will only give your more experience and perspective.
While it is completely fine for you to take breaks in between dates to recharge your energy and to reflect, do not be afraid to go on dates.
Just remind yourself that there’s no harm done if the person you meet isn’t the right one for you.
Let Your Friends Set You Up
If all else fails, turn to your friends for help!
A lot of the most compatible and wholesome couples are set up by their friends.
Your friends probably know you best, sometimes even better than you know yourself. So if they think that that a specific person would be perfect for you, it is very likely that they are right.
After all, at end of the day, your friends just want to see you happy and be with the right person.
Just ask your closest friends to set you up with someone they think will be compatible with you, and when they do, go on that date with an open mind and your confidence in the bag!
How to know that he is the one?
You Feel Comfortable With Him
The best way to know that you’ve found your soul mate is when you feel completely comfortable with him.
You feel safe, wanted, and cared for. With him, you are not afraid or embarrassed to be your true self because there are no judgments and repercussions for being yourself!
This person will most likely be your go-to person for everything. They’ll be a source of comfort for you and fill you with warmth and energy.
You Are Both Growing
A couple truly thrives when both the people are growing, together and as individuals. If you are with a man who hinders your growth then he is not the one for you.
Your soul mate is supposed to help you grow into the best version of yourself. He is supposed to be supportive and understanding. At the same time, he ought to keep evolving into an even better version of himself.
The relationship, rather than being stuck in a cycle of dysfunction, should be growing into something more mature and meaningful with time. If the relationship shows a pattern of growth, it is a sign that he is the one.
Nothing can keep you apart!
No matter how far from your soul mate you wander, you always find your way back to them. The two of you have this bond that time and hardships cannot break.
You may disagree on certain things, fight from time to time, and even grow apart for a while, but there is something that just brings you both together at the end of the day.
No matter what you go through, you know that they are your person and you both find a way to make it work somehow and thereby grow stronger by riding out the adversity together.
No Other Relationship Has Ever Felt the Same
Another sign that the man you are with is perfect for you is that none of your previous relationships have been the same.
You may have even been in some pretty good relationships before, but you can tell there is just something extraordinary about this person and the bond between you two.
This time, you do not have to go through the petty and frustrating problems you did in your previous relationships. The way you feel about him and the way he makes you feel are both unparalleled.
The impact the relationship has had on your life is inspiring, and even your friends and family notice that you have found happiness.
Follow Your Gut Feeling
Possibly the biggest sign the person that you are with is the “one” is that you just know. Your gut feeling tells you that this person is your soul mate, that he is the man of your dreams, and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
Follow this intuition because your gut feeling is hardly ever wrong.
How To Seal The Deal and Marry the Man?
Communicate Is Key!
We cannot stress this one enough!
Once you have found the right man for you, you need to do the right things so your relationship can withstand the test of time and you can spend the rest of your life with him. The most important rule here is to maintain communication.
There is nothing that you and your partner cannot conquer as a team by maintaining constant, open, and honest communication!
Rather than keeping things hidden, address and deal with the problems as they come. Talk to each other so that you can also be on the same page about where you both stand in the relationship.
Have Talks About the Future
To keep things going long-term, a couple must have the same long-term goals and dreams.
While you both may have had different life journeys up till now, you both are now part of a duo. None of the big life decisions you make for the future can be made without considering the other person.
To align towards the same life goals, you and your partner need to talk thoroughly about the future. Talk about what you both want for yourselves and the both of you as a couple and then work together towards them.
Avoid Being Codependent
If you are in it with your partner for the long haul, you need to avoid relationship dynamics that sabotage a relationship. A lot of couples, after being together for a long time, fall into a routine and lifestyle of codependency.
Eventually, this blows up in their faces and such relationships often fail. If you intend on marrying and spending the rest of your life with someone, you need to establish boundaries and develop healthy relationship dynamics that can actually sustain.
Learn To Compromise
If you intend to marry someone and spend the rest of your life with them, you are going to have to learn to make compromises. You can’t always get what you want and in every decision, you have to keep your partner in mind.
To make them happy, you are going to have to let certain things go and make certain sacrifices. This may not sound as appealing but that is how you make a relationship work and your partner should also be expected to do the same for you.
However, being aware of things that truly matter to you is very important here to make sure that you’re not compromising on something that in turn compromises your values or your mental health!
Go All In!
Once you are sure that this is the person you want to marry, do not hold back!
Give this relationship all that you can! Invest valuable time and energy into it.
When things get rocky, put in the effort to make it right.
When your partner is having a bad day, make sure you take out the time to ensure that they feel loved and appreciated.
Take the relationship seriously and do not be afraid to be vulnerable. A lot of people lose the right person for them because they are too afraid to commit.
So just remember to treat him like the person you have been waiting for all this time and don’t let something this wonderful go out of fear!
Final thoughts
Life can be really beautiful if it is spent with the right person. Most people go through life looking for their soul mate, meeting disappointments time and again.
A lot of people also do not have the patience to wait for the right person and settle for less.
It is important to be adventurous in search of the right person, but it is also not wise to be reckless.
With time, trial, and error, we assure you that you will find the man of your dreams. Until then, be patient and Goodluck!