Do you ever wonder what life is like as the Queen Bee? Yes, I’m talking about Beyoncé!
While I probably can’t tell you much about how luxurious her life might be, I could give you an insight into her character.
That’s because Beyoncé, along with other celebrities such as Selena Gomez, Elijah Wood, and Kate Middleton belongs to the ISFJ personality.
The ISFJ personality type, also known as the Defender personality, is from the Sentinel group of 16 personalities as described by the Myers-Briggs Indicator and Carl Jung’s personality theory.
With a mission to sprinkle a bit of kindness into everyone’s lives, ISFJs are one of the most caring, devoted, and compassionate personality types.
These private individuals are focused on their inner world and place great importance on how everything in life appeals to them.
However, at the same time, they are considerate and very good at making sure that their surroundings remain conflict-free, often at the cost of their well being.
ISFJs are highly dedicated to their work, but especially to the people in their lives. If they’re taking up your time, they’ll do whatever they can to make it worth your while.
Often getting distracted by the small miracles of life, this personality type wins most people’s hearts.
They prove themselves to be loyal lovers, hard workers, and compassionate humans who actively do their part to improve the lives of other people.
Interested in learning more about an ISFJ?
Keep on reading to find out more about their weaknesses, strengths, relationships, and work habits!
Personality traits of an ISFJ
A person’s personality type (aka ISFJ) is essentially an acronym for their preferences in 5 different aspects of life which make up their personality.
These aspects are mind, energy, nature, tactics, and identity. Each of these aspects has 2 categories.
Mind– The mind trait describes how we engage and interact with our environment. This can either be Extroverted (E) or Introverted (I).
Energy- The energy trait describes how we view the world and process it, which is either Observant (S) or Intuitive (N).
Nature- The nature trait describes how we deal with our emotions and make decisions. The nature trait is either described as Feeling (F) or Thinking (T).
Tactic- The tactic trait describes how we tackle our daily tasks and can either be Prospecting (P) or Judging (J).
Identity- The identity trait describes our overall confidence in our abilities and decisions. The identity trait can either be Assertive (A) or Turbulent (T) and varies in every individual.
In ISFJs these personality traits are introverted, sensing, feeling, and judging.
Now let’s take a closer look into each of these traits tell us about the ISFJ personality type.
As introverts, ISFJs expel energy in social settings (especially large gatherings) and are energized by the time they spend alone.
This just means that after a long night out, an ISFJ is likely to turn down that afterparty to come home and spend time doing something they love instead.
The sensing function implies that ISFJs prefer to focus on the practical and more pragmatic world rather than spending their time debating various theories.
Because of their sensing trait, ISFJs tend to live in the moment, focus on their surroundings, and constantly question how their experiences affect them.
With their introverted sensing, they are also able to compare everything they see, with what they’ve experienced before.
So when it comes to tackling certain tasks or problems, ISFJs are more likely to turn to what’s worked for them in the past and rely on traditions rather than trying something new.
The feelings trait means that most ISFJs prefer to take their values and morals into consideration rather than logical reasoning, before making a decision.
Because of their extroverted feeling, they also question how a certain action of theirs, or a decision they make will impact others.
They’re very conscious of the effect of their actions or words on other people, and in an attempt to please everyone around them, will refrain from doing anything that might hurt others.
However, sometimes this makes it very difficult for them to be honest about things that might be beneficial to others.
The judging trait implies that ISFJs prefer to work in an environment that provides some sort of structure or routine. They like to know what’s expected of them at what times and this makes them feel more comfortable.
By no means does this imply that they are highly organized people or judgemental in any way.
Rather, that they prefer structure and certainty over being surprised by the unknown, even in their relationships.
Strengths of an ISFJ
Peace- lovers with a comfortable presence
Most people usually feel very comfortable in the company of an ISFJ because they are usually able to analyze people’s moods and act accordingly.
ISFJs will monitor their actions and words to make sure they’re not offending anyone around them.
Most ISFJs want nothing more than to instill a sense of oneness and harmony in their group.
With the help of their extroverted feeling, they’re able to recognize what works for people around them, what makes other people feel comfortable, and even intense group settings, they’ll try to use that knowledge to make sure that everyone around them feels good.
When conflict arises, ISFJs will step in and diffuse the tension while trying to make sure that everyone’s needs are met, they all feel heard and are happy in the end.
ISFJs are very focused on memories, whether that’s making new memories or connecting new memories with old ones.
They pay special attention to their surroundings and are usually able to find a connection with it in their memories or from their past.
This makes them very good at spotting a problem, relating it to an experience, and using whatever helped them in the past, in the present scenario or situation.
Since ISFJs are focused on the moment and tend to be drawn to the pragmatic world, they are also very good at taking action, rather than just brewing ideas and never doing anything to bring them to life.
Hard workers who value positive feedback
Regardless of the task at hand, ISFJs always give it their best shot.
Their desire for positive feedback and the simple satisfaction of seeing a finished product pushes them to work very hard and try their best to give the best possible result.
When it comes to group projects, they’ll not only do their part but also pick up other people’s slack without question, as long as it means that they’ll get their work done perfectly and on time.
Loyalty to people, belongings, ideas, and promises
ISFJs show the utmost loyalty to people in their lives. They value the strong emotional bonds that they form with people and will genuinely do whatever they can to cherish each relationship in their lives.
They also tend to attach a lot of sentimental value to materialistic things.
Even though that means they’ll generally take very good care of their belongings and truly see the value things, when others might not see it, this does make them hoarders.
This loyalty further extends to ideas, and as long as their intuition stays in check, ISFJs are very good at following through with their ideas or promises to people.
If they’ve vowed to get something done, more often than not, they’ll get it done, especially if other people are positively affected by it.
Weaknesses of an ISFJ
Hide their true feelings
ISFJS tend to be vocal about their feelings when it concerns someone else, aka if they see someone getting bullied or they want a conflict to be resolved.
However, when it comes to their feelings, they’re usually hidden under a pile of misplaced apologies for being moody.
Their tendency to hide their emotions stems from their extroverted feeling which is so focused on pleasing people that they think speaking their mind might be offensive to others.
This is especially detrimental to their mental health when they don’t discuss important problems in relationships or generally in their lives, leading to a lot of internal disputes.
However, those feelings usually tend to resurface as anger and frustration later on.
Sometimes, they might even hide the truth about things that might be important for people to know, simply because they don’t want to hurt their feelings.
Don’t know how to say no
ISFJs are generous, however, people tend to take advantage of this generosity and keep asking ISFJs for favors.
Because ISFJs feel guilty saying no and don’t know when to put their time, their work, or themselves first, saying no to people is almost impossible for them.
While being shy is not a fault in itself, it can be one when it prevents an ISFJ from expressing their true selves around people.
They hold back on expressing their opinions or trying new things around other people, even if it’s a new style of clothing because they’re afraid of the judgment that might follow.
Find it hard to move on
ISFJs show the utmost loyalty to things and people, which makes it very hard for them to move on from things that aren’t good for them, especially when it comes to relationships.
They will most likely stay in toxic relationships, or a bad job and miss the opportunity to try something new because they attach so much sentimental value to whatever they already have.
Stubborn in their old ways
An ISFJ’s sensing function focuses on what works for them and makes them inclined to use the tried and tested methods, aka traditions.
This makes them reluctant to change or even to try something new, just for the heck of it.
If it’s not backed up by solid evidence or comes with proof of a positive outcome, they will not dip their toes in those unknown waters.
This, however, holds them back at their work and in life in general as they refuse to be impulsive and take risks.
They also find it harder to deal with people who are eager to put their spin on everything.
Don’t do well with criticism
ISFJs take such care to be pleasant with everyone around them and often associate giving constructive criticism with the possibility of offending others, leading them to keep their mouths shut.
However, they don’t realize that most people view criticism from a purely professional point of view and see no harm in telling you where you’re going wrong.
ISFJs take most criticism personally. In a relationship, it’ll affect their self- esteem and at work, it’ll not only make them more conscious about their work but also lower their morale and work ethic.
ISFJs in Relationships
An ISFJ’s idea of romance tends to be very stereotypical, often filled with cliches like a candlelight dinner, or slow dancing, sunset walks on the beach, etc.
This compassionate personality type is a devoted lover and will dive headfirst into relationships they see a future in.
First impressions and initial conversations with ISFJs
When it comes to looking for partners, ISFJs are mostly drawn to other sensing types and people who value kindness as much as ISFJs.
They might seem intimidating to talk to at first, but, with a few jokes, and some light conversation topics, it’s easy to get an ISFJ to open up.
However, they’ll only continue to open up if they find you trustworthy.
Most ISFJs tend to have a sixth sense about people’s characters, and if you seem like someone they don’t want to associate with, they’ll kindly bid you farewell.
ISFJ’s love language
Forming a meaningful connection with their partner is crucial to an ISFJ along with making sure that their partner feels supported every step of the relationship.
Once an ISFJ is in a relationship with you, they’ll express their love through acts of love and kindness while expecting appreciation in return.
This appreciation is to reassure them that they matter to you and that you’re interested in spending time with them.
Small acts of love like setting up cute date nights when they’ve had a long day or complimenting them occasionally or verbally expressing your love to them are enough to keep them happy.
ISFJs are drawn to acts of kindness so if you sign up to volunteer with them at a shelter or something similar, you’ll immediately win their hearts.
Balance out serious conversations with some light-hearted fun
Even though ISFJs value emotional connection and deep meaningful conversations in a relationship, they don’t want to cut back on the fun and playfulness either.
They like to keep things light-hearted and don’t rush serious conversations.
Remember to listen to ISFJs’ opinions and compromise when needed
If you’re in a long-term relationship with an ISFJ, conversations about finances, kids, marriage, and all that stuff will come up eventually.
And when they do, make sure that you allow an ISFJ to speak their mind, listen attentively, and express your views with the same level of consideration and kindness as they did theirs.
If you have differing views, they’ll be more than willing to compromise, but you need to make sure that they’re not always the ones compromising in the relationship.
Even though they’ll stay silent about most issues in an attempt to avoid conflict, over time, if you get on their nerves, the pent up frustration will blow up and can often result in them saying very hurtful things.
One thing to watch out for in relationships with ISFJs is that they can be very controlling at times with plans, especially if kids are involved, however that does stem from their need to do whatever’s best.
ISFJs in Friendships
When it comes to friendships, ISFJs get along with most of the people they meet because of how comfortable they make others feel around them.
However, only very few people actually get close to ISFJs because as most introverted personalities, ISFJs are particular about people they let into their inner circle.
But once they’re in, they’ll get access to ISFJs’ full personality, unrestricted; all the fun crazy ideas and emotions that they usually hide from most people.
If an ISFJ is comfortable trying out new things around you, being vocal about what upsets them, etc, you can know for sure that they trust you.
Going off of the defender name, ISFJs are very protective of their friends and will not tolerate anyone mistreating you. They’ll speak up in your defense behind your back and will often do this without expecting anything from you in return.
Along with their undying support, an ISFJ’s friendship comes packed with love, loyalty, dependability, thoughtfulness, and an unmatched kindness that could melt your heart.
ISFJs as parents
Parenting is usually a perfect fit for most ISFPs because they get to put their people servicing, empathizing, and scheduling skills to use.
As parents, ISFJs are tender-hearted, extremely loving, and physically affectionate with their kids because they want them to feel good.
This type feels very protective of their kids and will probably spend a lot of time engaging with them and trying to make sure that they’re a constant part of their lives.
Although that might be harder to do once the teenage years hit and the need for distance and independence kicks in, until it does, an ISFJ is very happy to support and provide for their child in every possible way.
ISFJs at work
When it comes to work, ISFJs feel like they get the most out of their work when they are in service to others.
To take it a step further, they feel especially satisfied when they can witness their work helping people in some way.
Any work that ISFJs do needs to be practical and hands-on.
Jobs that require discussing of theories, ideas, or anything abstract without any practical implementation, such as the only discussion of strategies will not only bore them but probably confuse them out of their minds
Most ISFJs are very dedicated to their tasks and will put in their full effort to see them through to the end.
Most of the time, they are very mindful of their surroundings and co-workers, making sure that everyone is also on track with their work. When they’re not, ISFJs will stop whatever they’re doing to help them out.
However, a lot of people have been known to take advantage of this giving nature of ISFJs, especially because the people pleaser in ISFJ usually does nothing to stand up for itself.
Another thing that ISFJs valued a lot at work is making sure they uphold traditions.
Rather than trying out new methods and figuring out new ways of doing boring tasks, ISFJs are more likely to do everything as it’s always been done, simply because there’s more structure, safety, and the chances of success are increased.
Along with that, ISFJs tend to prefer working in environments that are happier, and lower stress rather than fast-paced environments.
Do you think you match the personality description of an ISFJ? If so, I hope this provided a greater insight into the way you think and why you behave a certain way!
On the other hand, if you know an ISFJ in your life, just remember to send as much kindness their way as they do yours!