The most difficult riddle to be answered since the beginning of history is that what sort of creatures are we? What kind of personality traits we have?
After great explorations for years has employed a variety of concepts, it has been found out that there are individual differences in all the human beings present on this earth, even if they are exactly identical twins.
The differences can be accounted for biological, physical, psychological and most importantly personality.
And if we expand this horizon, we get to know that there is, even more, diversity within human beings in their culture, values, styles of life and personality.
What is the meaning of personality?
Personality is something which dominates your characteristics. It is your impression which you display to impress others around you.
For instance, Carl Rogers views personality as an organized and a permanent entity which is at the heart of our experiences and Sigmund Freud thinks of personality as a division between id, ego, and superego.
Adopting the Freudian approach to psychology, when our personal encounters with anxiety or stressful events, it makes use of some ego defense mechanisms to protect the ego that resides within us.
We, humans, use these defense mechanisms to protect ourselves from overwhelming anxiety and to function well.
We fail to realize that we are actually distorting ourselves from reality by using the defense mechanisms and are leading towards horrible failure.
Because all the defense coping styles like regression, repression, rationalization, displacement, projection etc operate on the unconscious level which means that they are extremely self-deceptive because they distort our perceptions about the real world around us.
Research has found that human beings have some personality traits which can bring about failure in their life as well as poverty and misery because these traits could affect their talents and the potential to work and capacity to make money.
Some personality traits people possess are so negative that they always turn into failure for them no matter how hard they try to get rid of them.
Have you ever realized that people have certain personality traits which can lead them to failure? Or do you want to know what those traits that I’m talking about are?
If not then this is the perfect time you realize now and make the most of this article.
I have gathered two most important personality traits that you need to know about and if any of you are aware of any of these two traits, you need to realize that these traits are holding you back from achieving your dreams.
1) Worst of all personality traits; Arrogance:
I have mentioned this trait because some people are way too arrogant. They think and they show the world that they know everything.
They feel superior for no reason. In reality, they aren’t really successful or capable enough but they don’t want to admit that they are actually weak. Because if they do, their ego and pride will be damaged.
This trait could lead people towards failure because since arrogant people tell others that they know everything, therefore, nobody really offers them help. People usually distance themselves from arrogant and egoistic people so such people are often loners.
For a person to be successful, he must get help from others because having an insight into different perspective would expand your knowledge and you may achieve much.
The arrogance stops you from realizing your weak points and damages your personal relationships. It is the arrogance which will never allow you to realize that it is the failure that has blocked the road to your success.
Therefore you need to remove the know-it-all attitude from your personality.
The inability to make a decision for yourself and a lack of resolution in your life serves your failure that you never even imagined.
People who are indecisive they daily get up in the morning put their clothes on, and leave the house for work as early as possible to get on time and they work for their boss the whole day because his boss is the one who can make decisions for him.
That sounds bad, right?
Well, it is because such people never took a stand and never made a decision.
They were too lazy that they lost the sense of purpose of their life now to earn money they have to drag themselves daily and they will be working like this for the rest of their lives.
Therefore to become successful, today and now make a decision about your life.
Become your own boss and work whenever and wherever you feel like working.
Most people delegate their decisions to other to avoid rejection.
The inability to make a decision for yourself and a lack of resolution in your life could serve you failure that you never imagined.
People who are indecisive. They don’t know what they are doing.
The daily get up in the morning…well except for Sunday, they put their clothes on, and leave the home for work….” bye Honey, I am off to work….don’t cheat on me while I’m gone”
…and they get to their work or office or whatever on time and work for their bosses the whole day.
And the sad part is; he could have spent that same on himself, working hard and doing all the hard work for himself and not some fat-ass lying down on the office seat pretending to work.
That sounds so bad, right?
Well, it is because such people never took a stand and never made a decision for themselves. They were too lazy that they lost the sense of purpose of their life. And now to earn money they have to drag themselves daily to work for someone else.
But to live a truly independent life and to become successful today and now make a decision about your life.
Become your own boss by taking a decision for yourself.
Narcissists are the people who think the world revolves around them. Being with them makes one feel low and “good for nothing”
These people will start throwing things at you if they ever feel wronged.
My friend’s mother is suffering from NPD which is an abbreviation of narcissistic personality disorder.
She is not diagnosed yet, but she has all the symptoms of it. She has an extreme lack of unselfishness for anyone, and she is never wrong because you don’t want to negate her!! At all!
She will physically assault those who do!
Narcissists people feel they are superior to others. Unsuccessful people feel superior for no reason. In reality, they aren’t really successful or capable enough but they don’t want to admit that they are actually weak. Because if they do, their ego and pride will be damaged.
This trait could lead people towards failure because since these people tell others that they know everything, therefore, nobody really offers them help.
They hurt people by making them realize their weak points and damage their personal relationships.
Therefore you need to remove the know-it-all attitude from your personality and realize that no one is superior in terms of equality.
4) Those who believe in everything:
People who believe everything that they have been told are the ones whose success is at risk.
People will start taking benefit from you if you keep on listening to the meaningless things they tell you like we are out of the budget, we are busy and whatnot.
Try to selectively listen and believe it to be true after you are satisfied with the validity of the news.
I have mentioned this trait because we all are somehow selfish.
We think only about what is to benefit us and not to others and we think primarily from our own point of view.
We all want instant gratification and do not like struggling with the things we desire. And therefore we overlook the necessary things and only consider the ones which are to benefit us and this is the reason people experience failure in the long run.
To become successful, one must be willing to come out of the comfort zone and put in some effort and set aside the selfish desires.
I am sure every one of you wants to be successful in life but in order to really achieve massive success; you need to first start acting like successful people.
You need to embody the same personality traits that all the successful people possess.
Think of all the success you know and realize that they also started it from somewhere.
Realize that in order to become successful and wealthy, they had to dump some of their personality traits.
They had to compromise to gain something for the lifetime.
They stopped being arrogant and did make a decision for themselves.