Keep going: There is a common mistake that people try to hold on to their feelings and emotional problems thinking that it will make them stronger. But this is not the right approach. It is letting go of the pains and distresses that will add strength to your life.
Those of us who keep on lingering on to their past miseries and look behind, again and again, are often shocked at the end when they find that the future has actually gone past them. Finding solace in your life is not a very complicated or difficult task.
It is all about changing your attitude and mindset. You need to distract yourself or divert your attention towards something positive in your life rather than holding on to the past stories and memories of the pain and grief.
Not keep going and letting go of pain can be lethal:
Having the feelings of mental pain and distress over a prolonged period of time can be harmful to a person as well. It not only has psychological implications but can also adversely affect your physical health. For this reason allowing worries and stresses to pile up is not a good option for anyone.
It is important for the general well-being of the person to learn how to let go of pain and keep going in a forward direction. This pain could be attributed to the same unwanted event in the past, some grief, failure, loss of someone close or simply a continued feeling of hopelessness and anxiety towards our daily life routines. It could something important or something very unimportant.
But the crux is that no matter what the past holds, you must let it go and move on. Otherwise, you will be holding up huge amounts of positive energy and emotions which could otherwise benefit you to achieve your goals and objectives.
You can change your entire life for betterment and fulfillment of yourself and people around you.
So how can you let go of pain and keep going? The points highlighted in the below text will help you get a fair idea.
Have a look and try and follow them with positivity and open-mindedness:
Understand the advantages of letting go:
It is human nature to adopt and act on something if they know that it is beneficial. Without any gains or advantages, we hardly want to go towards any activity. Many people hold on to their miseries and pains because they believe that it can help them. How? You may ask. Well, these people like to portray a victimized image, making the other person become the villain and get lots of sympathies from people around them. There are also other reasons why people deliberately fail to let go of the pain.
But what these people fail to understand is that they will be on the losing end in the long run.
- Their health will be negatively affected.
- People will start avoiding them.
- Their professional and social life will be affected.
- They will be stereotyped.
- They will remain unhappy.
So overcome this past distress and look out for the positive outcomes you can achieve.
Understand the pain and its reasons:
You need to analyze what actually happened and what was the reason for this pain. Try to accept that whatever happened has happened and nothing in this world will now reverse it.
Yes, it was painful, but now the pain has no point of lingering on. If you keep on returning to the cause and reasons, the pain will continue to be stronger. It is better to accept and move on.
Learn to forgive and forget:
Learning the art of forgiving and forgetting is the best way to let go of the pain.
The stress you feel could be because of someone’s wrongdoings or mistakes.
If you forgive those wrong behaviors the reason for pain will subside and you will be free from this trauma and anxiety.
Start focusing on more important influences in your life:
Instead of the past look into the future. Analyze your life and see who and what matter most.
- What could more influencing on your life?
- Where would you rather spend your time and energy?
- What are positive goals and objectives that I need to accomplish?
- How should I plan my future moves?
This is only a basic framework that can help you to let go of pain and keep on moving in the forward direction.
Our preferences, attitudes, and lifestyles differ from each other. So personal ways of finding peace and calmness may have slight variations.
But the basic idea should remain the same.
Add positivity and optimism to your life and you will be surprised to see the amazing change that will follow.