Most of us find it difficult to get along with every single person we meet. Heck, on most days, we do a complete 180 if we spot someone we know outside, especially if it’s one of those lazy days!
But not ENFJs! This people-loving personality will be most likely to jump at any opportunity they can to be around people. Barack Obama has an ENFJ Personality.
The ENFJ personality type or Protagonist personality type is one of the extroverted personalities from the Diplomats group of the 16 personalities as described by the Myers-Briggs Indicator and Carl Jung’s personality theory.
ENFJs are most commonly described as being social, sensitive, harmonious, and extremely caring.
ENFJs are passionate and ambitious individuals who are determined to make a difference in this world; whether that’s by helping out in a humanitarian cause or simply making an effort to take care of those around them.
They keep an eye out for opportunities to help people in any way they can, often putting their lives and priorities on hold if they need to.
With a strong foothold in their beliefs ( while not being too expressive about them) and a lot of faith in people’s abilities to grow, ENFJs will usually be found in social settings encouraging and supporting as many people as they can to make their dreams come true.
However, that’s only what you see on the surface and there’s a lot more to an ENFJ than that.
So keep on reading to find out more about ENFJs’ greatest strengths, lowest downfalls, and how they behave at work and interact with the people around them!
Personality traits of an ENFJ
A person’s personality type (aka ENFJ-A/T) is essentially an acronym for their preferences in 5 different aspects of life which make up their personality.
These aspects are mind, energy, nature, tactics, and identity. Each of these aspects has 2 categories.
Mind– The mind trait describes how we engage and interact with our environment. This can either be Extroverted (E) or Introverted (I).
Energy- The energy trait describes how we view the world and process it, which is either Observant (S) or Intuitive (N).
Nature- The nature trait describes how we deal with our emotions and make decisions. The nature trait is either described as Feeling (F) or Thinking (T).
Tactic- The tactic trait describes how we tackle our daily tasks and can either be Prospecting (P) or Judging (J).
Identity- The identity trait describes our overall confidence in our abilities and decisions. The identity trait can either be Assertive (A) or Turbulent (T) and varies in every individual.
In ENFJs these preferences are extroverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging.
Now let’s take a closer look into each of these traits tell us about the ENFJ personality type.
Extroverted means that ENFJs draw their energy from the outside world by interacting with their surroundings and the people around them.
ENFJs are highly extroverted and they can spend time around others for hours without feeling the need to retreat into solitude, even when they dive into some pretty deep conversations!
They love getting to know people, connecting with them, and often define their self-worth with how much they can influence other people’s lives.
However, this can sometimes be harmful to ENFJs (especially under stress) because unlike ENFPs, they fail to realize when it’s time for them to step away and rejuvenate by themselves.
This trait explains how ENFJs prefer to direct their focus towards ideas, theories, and concepts, instead of the practical world.
Rather than mindlessly observing their surroundings, ENFJs process everything through an analytical logical filter in their minds to conclude how they feel about a certain event, or certain people, right then and there.
However, ENFJs are still very much aware of their surroundings and appreciate the experiences and people that make them happy.
As they develop this function in their lives, their intuition will allow them to be highly skeptical, spot patterns in people’s behaviors, live in a world of possibilities, and figure out exactly how they can manipulate a situation to their advantage.
ENFJs are future-oriented thinkers and often get so lost in their thoughts that they forget to focus on the present tasks.
ENFJs focus on their values and feelings when it comes to making decisions, rather than thinking about it objectively.
They will not only base their decisions on how they might be affected by the consequences but also think about how their decisions will impact others in their lives.
However, even though ENFJs have a very strong foothold on their morals, more often than not, they tend to keep their beliefs to themselves if they suspect that they might cause conflict.
This trait implies how ENFJs are more comfortable working in a structured environment where they can plan out their days.
A high level of self- discipline stems from this trait and makes sure that ENFJs see their tasks to the end.
However, unlike other Judging types, their organizational skills extend beyond their work and into how they can compartmentalize their feelings and use them to draw their conclusions about people and situations, much more quickly and accurately.
Strengths of an ENFJ
Goal-oriented and committed
ENFJs are very goal-oriented people and once they figure out what they want, they will chase after it with determination and excitement.
They’re the kind of people who usually have their days planned out from the moment they wake up to accomplish their tasks.
Although they might not always know exactly how to achieve something, they believe in sticking out and doing whatever you need to do (as long as it doesn’t hurt someone) to get it done!
ENFJs are creative souls who have a specifically good eye for fashion and design.
Their creativity is also seen in their communication skills as they’re able to hold an interesting conversation with just about anyone, based on what the person is interested in.
ENFJs have a wide well of knowledge and are very likely to remember the specifics of whatever they might be talking about.
Effective and tolerant communicators
ENFJs have the ability to understand most people’s mindset and interact with them accordingly.
This means that when they talk to people, not only are they able to effectively get their point across, but they’re also able to understand where the person is coming from.
They’ll know exactly how to converse with a child to get through to them or how to motivate a certain crowd by switching between the use of logic and empathy.
Even if an ENFJ doesn’t always agree with another’s point of view, they’ll still understand the thought process behind it and respect it for what it is.
This makes ENFJs very open-minded and tolerant people who are open to hearing new ideas.
ENFJs are great at spotting people’s hidden potential and focusing on the good in everyone, even when people might not see it themselves.
An ENFJ will persuade you to go after your dream. They will boost your confidence and make you feel like you’re capable of achieving anything you put your mind to, as long as you work hard with sincere dedication.
ENFJs apply the same concept to themselves as well and will figure out a way to get what they want, even if they have to enlist other people’s help for it.
Always ready to help others
An ENFJ is very generous with their time and energy. They will almost always be ready to stop what they’re doing to help you out if you call on them.
On one hand, this makes them very reliable people who everyone turns to when things go wrong.
On the other hand, it, in turn, helps boost an ENFJ’s self- esteem, which often relies on feeling accomplished and validated after helping others.
ENFJs tend to be great leaders because of how good they are at bringing people together for a certain cause.
They speak with honesty and passion which leaves people feeling motivated and inspired.
Because of their great conversational skills and the ability to assess the mindset of a crowd, ENFJs wastes no time in gathering up a bunch of people and very successfully transferring their enthusiasm for a cause to them.
Weaknesses of an ENFJ
Too hard on themselves
ENFJs can get so deeply involved in others’ lives that they don’t focus on themselves- unless they mess something up.
Even Though they’ll never fully credit their achievements, they tend to be too hard on themselves when things go wrong.
An ENFJ often holds themselves to unrealistic standards of perfection, and when they fail to achieve that, their self-esteem suffers greatly.
Make snap judgments
ENFJs can often form their opinion about something a little too quickly without taking the time to consider all the facts. They might think that they have all the facts in order when in reality, their judgment is based on first impressions.
Sensitive to criticism
It’s hard for ENFJs to not take criticism personally.
ENFJs place too much importance on what other people think of them and live off of compliments from other people.
If someone criticizes them, it will negatively affect their mental health and send them down a rabbit hole of questioning their worth.
Tend to avoid confrontations
An ENFJ’s strong desire to avoid conflict and maintain harmony is generally a good thing.
However, it stops working in their favor when things go wrong, and instead of working through the conflict, an ENFJ simply shoves it all down.
They’ll try to downplay problems and not realize the full extent of leaving them unresolved, just so they don’t have to deal with them.
ENFJs avoid confrontations in the name of peace, however, they don’t realize that by burying all the negativity, they’re actually holding grudges inside which will affect their relationships in the long term.
Especially when these grudges resurface in the form of passive-aggressive behavior.
ENFJs in Relationships
When it comes to relationships, ENFJs usually go all out. Once they enter a relationship, they’re in it for the long haul.
However, if it does end due to unfortunate circumstances, they won’t have a problem moving on either.
They are extremely loving and caring
They are very generous with their love and support, enthusiastic with their energy, and genuine with the connections they form.
An ENFJ is invested in getting to know their partner to the core and forming a deep emotional connection with them. They’ll be interested in your passions, your morals, your motivations, etc.
ENFJs love fiercely and a lot of their happiness in a relationship revolves around their partner’s feelings.
Even though their constant caring and hovering can sometimes be a little overwhelming, it all comes from the good intention of keeping you happy.
However, this doesn’t mean that ENFJs will completely set their heart out on the table for you to see. Even though they are extroverted they are still careful about who they let into their hearts.
So if you are very close to an ENFJ, know that it’s because they trust you. You are special to them and they plan on keeping you around.
They are supportive and value personal growth
An ENFJ loves personal growth and even in a relationship, they need someone who will not only support them through this growth but will also be willing to grow with them.
Because they see so much potential in others, an ENFJ will never hold you back from what you want to do. If you want to embark on a new endeavor at any point in your life, they’ll be your number one supporter.
ENFJs are the kind of people to make your problems, their problems and if needed, will do whatever they can to fix them. They will share a lot of your emotional burdens, sometimes at the cost of their mental well being.
Feeling appreciated is enough to keep them happy
ENFJs are very easy to please in a relationship because, at the end of the day, all they want is to feel appreciated for who they are by their partner.
It’s often the small gestures of love displayed by their partners that make ENFJs feel valuable and stick with them.
Remembering details about things they might have mentioned in conversations, surprising them with a cute date when they’ve been feeling down, or simply taking time out of your busy schedule to spend some quality time with them are just a few examples of such gestures.
ENFJs in Friendships
ENFJs are social butterflies who usually end up forming a lot more friendships than they can maintain.
However, they are incredibly supportive and caring friends who will put in a lot of effort into their friendships.
Not only do they make you feel heard and important in their company, but they’re also very easy to open up to about problems, because of how empathetic, understanding, and non- judgmental they are.
An ENFJ will be the friend in the group who’s always ready to help others, is always trying to get everyone together, and will probably be pushing you towards personal growth whenever they can.
When it comes to disagreements and misunderstanding, (which are a common part of most friendships), ENFJs are more likely to ignore it or deal with it in a passive-aggressive manner rather than talk it out.
ENFJs at work
When it comes to work, ENFJs thrive in environments where they get to put their people skills to use, help bring out the best in people, and be a part of their growth.
These include jobs like teaching, counseling, HR management, or coaching.
However, in such jobs where ENFJs are responsible for others, if people don’t work hard enough or things go south, they might be harsh on their students as they want the best for them.
ENFJs do great in leadership positions because of how easily they can plan out tasks and bring people together for a cause.
They will transfer their excitement and motivation onto their employees and see to it that everyone plays their part.
They use their judging skill to organize their tasks, structure their days, and make sure that they get everything done well, and on time.
ENFJs are creative and usually get very excited by new projects, even though sometimes they overestimate their ability to do it.
ENFJs like to maintain good relations with their peers and will not hesitate to stay back now and then, to make sure others get their work done as well.
If a conflict arises and there are disagreements about work, an ENFJ is most likely to diffuse the tension and use their intuitive brain to figure out a solution.
Although they might get defensive if you criticize their work too much and might even lose a bit of motivation, as long as they’re surrounded by others who think otherwise, they can get over it and move on.
ENFJs are easy-going and giving personalities who will usually be a very positive influence in your life.
If you know an ENFJ, don’t forget to give them a genuine compliment every now and then about how much they mean to you.
And remind them to take breaks for themselves when the stress levels rise, just so their mental health stays intact!