Admit it, we all want a magnetic aura yet we don’t really know what it’s about!
It’s quite simple actually. It comes from electrifying your personality, which is an art that makes you stand out in a group of people with not-so-attractive personalities.
Once you master this skill, grabbing everyone’s attention will be a piece of cake.
All you need to do to electrify your personality is work on building a more confident, happier, and charming version of yourself! However, the key here is to remain as authentic to your true self as possible and not put on a fake personality simply to impress others.,
Remember, your appearance might be the first thing that people notice about you, but, having an attractive personality can outweigh your physical appearance tremendously!
Traits that make up an electrifying personality
Here are some of the most common traits present in those who possess an electrifying personality:
- A big, wholesome smile
- Honest and kind
- Attentive listener
These are only a few, there are tons more depending on the person and place.
How should I electrify my personality?
What really is an electrifying personality? Does it actually electrocute you?
As interesting as that sounds, that’s not the case.
An electrifying personality is one that you remember, that leaves others impressed and is engaging.
We all want such a personality, don’t we? Below are some points to help you achieve this goal:
Smiling is key. Everyone likes a smiling face.
Smiling automatically causes a positive effect on those around you. It’s like a magnet and helps add electrification to your personality.
“A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.” – William Hazlitt
Studies say that smiling is not only a mood booster but helps our bodies release cortisol and endorphins that provide numerous health benefits.
A fake smile is not attractive, and nor is a fake personality. Insincerity leaves a bad impression.
So, always be sincere and smile with genuine feelings and gratitude.
Become a good listener
Listening and hearing are different. You may hear a thousand words, but comprehend only a few that you listen to.
Start listening to others. Sympathize/empathize with them. If you continue talking without listening to others, people will walk away from you in no time.
Be compassionate to everyone
Being harsh or rude will make people repel you like a vampire from sunlight. On the other hand, being nice and compassionate will make others like you.
Try talking about what’s bothering them, or you, and help them. Understand them. It’ll attract their attention, so brownie points for that.
Being determined is a very difficult task. However, staying focused on your goal and being hardworking is something people cherish and get inspired from. It shows that you are compelled towards a true purpose in life.
Human moods change all the time. And it’s impossible to stay cheerful 24/7, but be optimistic. Negativity is depressing, and will only attract pity.
On the other hand, a positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life.
It brings optimism into your life and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking.
Show that you care.
Be joyous and enthusiastic.
Crack a few jokes to break the ice and see the change it makes.
Oh boy, making people laugh is a tough job, but it makes people want to stay in your company.
Be funny, but don’t poke fun at others. That’s a big no-no.
Adding humor to your personality will make it more electrifying.
Be charismatic and mesmerize others
Being charismatic is a big plus. Learn how to be mesmerizing with these few basic steps:
1) Maintain eye contact
2) Be genuine
3) Show some vulnerability
4) Be inquisitive, ask questions
5) Know everyone’s names
6) Show interest, and pitch in the conversation
7) Always look for a common ground
8) Admit your mistakes
9) Keep your facial expressions neutral
10) Be sarcastic and witty
This may seem like a whole bunch, but trust me, all of these will help you achieve an electrifying personality.
Don’t sugar coat it, be original
Originality is beautiful. The more real you are, the more attractive and approachable you’ll be. Sugar-coating is fake and will not make you magnetic.
Have your own personality.
Your own aspirations and dreams
Your own way of living.
Copying someone else is unflattering so stay true to yourself.
However, this doesn’t mean you can’t take inspiration from others.
“It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation”
Unattractive personality traits; what not to incorporate
Now that we’re done with electrifying our personality, here are some repugnant traits to stay away from.
Low emotional intelligence
In a nutshell, having low emotional intelligence, or EQ is toxic as it affects everyone you come in contact with. EQ is often just as important as your actual IQ (or raw intelligence).
Low EQ leads to poor communication skills. It damages your credibility and makes others feel less confident in you.
When you’re emotionally intelligent, you’re aware of your emotions, as well as the feelings and needs of those around you.
Having a high EQ helps you manage social situations and relationships, and enables you to regulate your emotions accordingly.
A little bit of sarcasm can come across as funny at times, but if you live to spout sarcastic comments, you may be unwittingly creating a toxic environment.
This is especially true if you focus your snark on belittling others or enjoy giving backhanded comments to subordinates.
If you think your constant sarcastic comments are scoring points or making you look smart, think again!
Sarcasm makes you seem bitter, angry, and arrogant.
Instead, simply try being nice. Treat everyone with a level of decorum and respect.
Resist the urge to chide others or throw verbal zingers to get a laugh at someone else’s expense. The key is to be charming, not snarky.
When you’re too rigid in your thinking and decision-making, you can inadvertently limit your options or be unable to make quick adjustments as needed.
You should stay open to suggestions and constructive criticism and be cooperative.
Not following through
Failed promises diminish your charm. If you want to preserve your influence and earn the respect of others, you’re going to need to learn to follow through and follow up.
If you say you’re going to do something, do it. That goes hand in hand with being dependable, hearing others out, and acting with integrity.
Impatience is a sign of a repulsive personality. Being impatient stirs annoyance in others for you and is irritable.
Learn how to be patient and cohesive.
However, just like any emotion, impatience isn’t intrinsically bad per se, it’s how you choose to express your impatience that can hurt you. Self-awareness is key. It is the ingredient that goes with everything in life.
Being a control freak
Being a control freak hampers your ability to make quick decisions. You can easily become overwhelmed by your sense of perfectionism and grow frustrated when things don’t go as planned.
What if, instead of trying to control everything, you embraced the unpredictable? Give it a try and see how liberating it is to let go.
It’s easy to feel cynical sometimes, but those who fundamentally lack empathy or fail to show compassion will find their toxic attitude is corrupting their relationships, etc. Cynicism makes you look defensive and angry.
Empathy helps others feel connected and understood. We’re naturally drawn to those who are supportive and seem relatable.
By showing we care and understand what others are going through, we create a supportive atmosphere that draws people in.
Closed-minded people tend to want to point fingers at others rather than accept responsibility when things go wrong.
They believe they have the answers to everything, so they have a hard time listening to what others have to say.
No matter how certain you are, make sure you hear others out. Even if your way ends up being the best, you’ll be a better person.
Seek to be radically open-minded. It may be hard on your ego, but it will shift the way people perceive you.
Don’t allow an obstinate or narrow-minded attitude to keep you away from great out-of-the-box ideas.
Nobody likes a pessimist.
If you’re constantly complaining, you’re not only bringing everyone else down, you’re being unproductive and making everyone else more unproductive to boot.
Plus, you come across as a high-maintenance whiner.
If you spend all your energy grumbling and lamenting, you’re reinforcing a negative mindset in yourself and driving everyone else away.
Pay attention to how often you say negative things. If you can’t get through a conversation without complaining, you have a problem.
Narcissists are noxious because their enlarged ego keeps them from listening to anyone who contradicts them. They really don’t want to hear what you have to say if you’re not in line with their thinking.
Oh, and they’re also completely self-focused. If that’s you, then this is your wake-up call.
Your self-centered ways are not only denying others an opportunity to share possibly inspiring ideas; you’re also hurting those around you. Try to think about others every now and then.
How does electrifying my personality affect my day-to-day dealings with people?
Personality development helps you gain recognition and acceptance from society as well as people around you.
Personality development plays an essential role not only in an individual’s professional but also in personal lives. It makes an individual disciplined, punctual and an asset for his/her organization.
Having an electrifying personality will make others like you and it can be a big help if you’re working in the sales department.
It will make people listen to you and take you seriously. Most importantly, it’ll help you establish a strong front.
To end it off
Keep in mind that changing your personality isn’t something that will happen overnight. It takes time, maybe a tad bit longer for those who have a personality of a fossil. It’s a continuous process and will evolve as you grow older.
However, having an electrifying personality will help you in many fields.
Whether it’s to attract attention or for a business deal, charm your way into it. Just keep the positive traits in mind and avoid having the negative ones.