In our times, a little younger time I mean…we never had this “BFF” (best friend’s forever) mantra. And I think that simply rocked as it didn’t have to bring in a difference in the way we treat them and our other normal friends.
There was simply no “she/he is my best friend forever”
“I will share every piece of me with this very dumb person.”
It was as simple as ever and to be honest, friendships were a little pure also.
But these days, where you can’t even trust your sibling when they say “I don’t know where your charger is!” ‘
“I did not steal your Nutella bar,”…how come you can trust any other person?
You have many normal friends and then you have this best friend whom you love for I don’t know several reasons.
They become the so-called center of your life and you assume them as your source of life, sharing stuff, having fun and a lot more!
We assume that we HAVE to share every single moment with them…when in actual, we should question ourselves for this behavior!
Do we really have to do this?
Is it essential to share every minute of your life with them?
Is it important to tell them all about what you like and dislike?
Is it important to tell them that you just had a breakup or you checked out someone?
I mean the only thing that is left behind is that you don’t tell them when you go to poop, or you get constipation or you feel like puking out what you ate because you have some stomach issues or whatever, right?
Do you share even that?
Well if you do then this is for you!
Ok, there’s going to be something that you don’t share. We always have this one side that we keep to ourselves, so why we hide that?
This is because some things cannot be told to everyone out there.
There are some things that you really don’t have to share with anyone. Your friends, or your relatives or maybe your best friend forever, you know?
I agree, they become the center of your world and that is great because they are those single beings who don’t really judge you. You think that all of your secrets are so safe but then again, do you really think they are safe?
Well, yes they are until your so-called best friend forever, turns into an enemy forever! And things can change course too fast you know.
So here are some things or secrets that you really should not share with anyone and you don’t need to either.
If you don’t share them with anyone, your life might just be easier and trust me, it won’t hurt your relation either.
So chill out and don’t forget to keep these things within your tiny little heart and yeah…to keep those lips sealed as well!
Secrets you should never tell anyone:
1. Your Desires can be Offensive to A lot of People:
Desires might sound totally perfect for you because you crave them; you have some feelings associated with them.
However, they can be a bit taboo for the outside world.
Keep in mind that your friend or relatives are also a part of this world and they can find some of your desires offensive or bad.
You might be just okay with them but some people might not be.
I hope you are getting what I mean here.
So it is better to keep them buried in your heart and mind.
Admitting your needs or desires to someone won’t make them happen for you, will it?
Your friend might just turn totally judgmental with you on the basis of your desires and you will soon realize that they were better hidden behind the curtains.
And these desires of yours can be utilized as a weapon by your very own dear friend if you get into an argument with them.
2. Income; Keep it in your Bank Dude:
Your economic status can cause a lot of issues for you.
It can create gaps.
This world runs on money these days and we cannot deny this. Have you heard that statement; “Money can shift relationships?” I bet you have and even you haven’t, I just told you about it!
Have you heard that statement; “Money can shift relationships?”
Never tell your actual income to anyone.
I would suggest you don’t tell it to anyone…the real neither the fake one. You stay great friends without sharing it all.
Why am I saying this?
If your income is low, you might be hurt by different statements like: “you can’t afford that place so we can eat somewhere else.”
And then you will find yourself being totally uncomfortable amongst those people and you will decide to walk out of them as soon as possible to enter a group that has the same income level as yours.
A lot of people will say that my best friend isn’t like that.
But here is the reality check; your best friend is also a human and this just falls under human nature!
3. Parent’s Complaining:
This is again supernatural.
My friend’s mother used to call my other friend (back in our college days and we were total nerds) to check on his son.
Things like “Is he taking drugs or something?”
They were less of friends and more of brothers and sometimes the college had huge gossips about them as well (you know what I mean right?)
Until one day, the bad thing happened; my friend found out that his mother had been calling his friend.
Long story short, they broke off their friendship after a huge argument.
So if your best friend’s mother decides to talk to you (or even father), make sure that you don’t open it to them or your friend.
There are some things that are better hidden.
If they want to discuss some issue with you; let them. But don’t answer any of their questions.
So the point is. Lock it, and throw away the key!
4. Crush on their Man or Woman
This is the last thing that you should or would want to admit to your best friend or any friend, to be honest.
This is simply going to make your friend distant from you and they will prefer keeping their man or woman away from you.
They might also feel a bit insecure in your presence and it will automatically make them hate you or simply dislike you.
I mean, this is quite obvious, right?
But when you are in the flow, such things just abruptly slip out of your mouth and you just can’t catch them up and put them back in there…right?
Don’t even tell them if their man or woman ever had a crush on you. They just won’t trust you or them anymore.
Stay out of the “a wild catfight is ready” zone!
You need to learn the dark life lessons.
5. This one is for the Ladies (Mostly) “Unsure Dating” :
So dating a guy is something that ALL GIRLS were to spill the beans about!
He just wants to take you on your first date and everything is already OUT of your mouth. Every single detail of how he sat next to you or how he did some cute, romantic gesture goes into talks for hours.
I mean, that call just says call duration: 2 hours but still, there is no end to that gossip.
But what if that guy is so not sincere with you?
And you aren’t even sure about him?
Ladies need to keep that inside their stomach somehow.
I know it pains you a lot, I mean it tickles to spill it all out. But you can talk about it to yourself; that is much better. (No Offense)
So if you are not sure about someone and you don’t think that they are your perfect partner; don’t spill the beans.
You don’t have to tell your best friend about it either.
I mean, it isn’t a rule of great friends that you need to share whoever you are dating your best friend. Trust me; it can go on peacefully without it as well.
Sometimes pretending is all the choice you have.
Secrets, are called secrets for some reason right? They are meant to keep inside you until it is like really a matter of death and life to spill them out.
Sharing every piece of you and your life with anyone is a foolish act. Trust me when I say that your life doesn’t even remain yours.
So make sure that the next time you start sharing something with someone, you do question yourself.
Not about whether that person is trustworthy or not but about is it important to tell that to the next person?
Secrets are better kept inside your very personal pocket as they can turn quite messy if handed over to others. They can change your life upside down and be a bit dangerous in the future also.